Oftentimes our culture tends to blame the mother if something is not perfect, or rather, perfect in the way the culture dictates. Having discovered that your child is gay (GLBTQ+) may have sent you into a tailspin, trying to identify what you did wrong, so that you can fix it. Perhaps you questioned yourself and others. You may have wondered:
From the time you first held your child in your arms, you began to think of your future with him/her. You thought of him/her growing up, getting married, having their own family, and always being a part of your life. Realizing that your expectations for the future have changed may be as difficult as accepting his/her sexual orientation. As you adjust to this new reality, you will develop new hopes and expectations for your future together.
Your child is not a GLBTQ+ because of something you did or did not do. This is a time when your child needs your support more than ever.
- Did my child choose to be gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or queer?
- How can I accept my gay child?
- How do I let my son/daughter know I love him/her?