Oftentimes our culture tends to blame the mother if something is not perfect, or rather, perfect in the way the culture dictates. Having discovered that your child is gay (GLBTQ+) may have sent you into a tailspin, trying to identify what you did wrong, so that you can fix it. Perhaps you questioned yourself and others. You may have wondered:
- Why is my child GLBT?
- What did I do wrong that caused my child to be gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender?
From the time you first held your child in your arms, you began to think of your future with him/her. You thought of him/her growing up, getting married, having their own family, and always being a part of your life. Realizing that your expectations for the future have changed may be as difficult as accepting his/her sexual orientation. As you adjust to this new reality, you will develop new hopes and expectations for your future together.
Your child is not a GLBTQ+ because of something you did or did not do. This is a time when your child needs your support more than ever.
- Did my child choose to be gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or queer?
- How can I accept my gay child?
- How do I let my son/daughter know I love him/her?